queer advice #61: simply going through it

"I spent many years avoiding myself and my needs and desires and fears by fixating on meeting my ex’s needs and managing their moods and making them happy."

Hey, it’s Sunday and I’m back with a new queer advice column!! If you’re new to this newsletter, this is a recurring feature where I answer love and relationship questions from lesbians and other homos. Some past editions include an important missive from a MILF lover and ”I'm a 33-year-old dirty slut who loves to be alone and go to bed at 10 pm.” Also,…