Thank you for pointing out the biphobia and how vulnerable bis are to abuse! I am bi, and this is something I contemplate often. My anchor partner is bi and we both have histories of abusive partners in relationships with folks of various genders. The situation the LW deceived reminded of my experiences with a cis male partner and a quee…
Thank you for pointing out the biphobia and how vulnerable bis are to abuse! I am bi, and this is something I contemplate often. My anchor partner is bi and we both have histories of abusive partners in relationships with folks of various genders. The situation the LW deceived reminded of my experiences with a cis male partner and a queer enby partner, in different aspects. Only a year later is it dawning on me that the enby partner was controlling specifically when it came to my relationships with cis men, and that this was rooted in biphobia. I also think that because queers in general have been through so much trauma, we often want to remain more open to folks who are behaving badly because we know that trauma can make people act out, without them being bad people. This can be weaponized against us by manipulative people. I admire so much how the LW seems to have gotten to a healthier place with their other ex, despite some harmful stuff going down in that relationship. The most recent ex is NOT doing any of the things that the previous ex did that made reconciliation possible.
Thank you for pointing out the biphobia and how vulnerable bis are to abuse! I am bi, and this is something I contemplate often. My anchor partner is bi and we both have histories of abusive partners in relationships with folks of various genders. The situation the LW deceived reminded of my experiences with a cis male partner and a queer enby partner, in different aspects. Only a year later is it dawning on me that the enby partner was controlling specifically when it came to my relationships with cis men, and that this was rooted in biphobia. I also think that because queers in general have been through so much trauma, we often want to remain more open to folks who are behaving badly because we know that trauma can make people act out, without them being bad people. This can be weaponized against us by manipulative people. I admire so much how the LW seems to have gotten to a healthier place with their other ex, despite some harmful stuff going down in that relationship. The most recent ex is NOT doing any of the things that the previous ex did that made reconciliation possible.