1. First, Orna and Couples Therapy are two of my true loves, thank you for acknowledging.
2. Being ghosted or having a situationship end are such universally horrible experiences that can trigger such deep questioning of self worth!! Anytime it’s happened to me, I run through every possible reason why I could have disgusted the other person. Does my southern accent make me seem like I’m dumb? Was my breath bad? Did I say something that icked them? Did my dream of quitting my corporate job and opening a small beach town donut shop not align with their vision of their own future? It’s so hard to turn the critical eye back onto the other person, but after dating for a long time, I realized I had to learn to intentionally think about the reality of dating or marrying this person and what would have never worked for me. One person seemed perfect after 3 dates, but after she ghosted me I remembered that she drank several drinks at each date and I don’t drink. Not a good match long term, maybe! Another person who ghosted me two months in on New Year’s Eve (15 minutes before midnight by leaving the bar we were at and never returning) completely broke my heart. But after grieving for a few days, deeply, I remembered she was deeply invested in men’s professional soccer and i wouldn’t have been happy pub hopping to watch a sport I could care less about for the whole season.
3. Petty life hack: find an ugly picture of them (check their friends’ IG accounts) and keep it close.
Ugh i wish i did not relate so deeply to this question asker. you gotta let yourself feel hurt, down bad!! ghosting you in this manner is an unkind and hurtful thing for that hot doctor to do! just gotta remember that someone who does that is simply not wife material. time will heal your wounds and a new, hotter doctor could be just around the corner <3
Man it is so great to read about other lesbians a) being insane and knowing it, and b) giving great relationship advice. Thank u maddy and down bad!! I feel the warm glow of lesbian kinship radiating out of my phone
In my experience, sometimes time by itself isn't enough to get over someone. Sometimes you have to decide that you truly WANT to move on from the person before time can, eventually, make that happen. And sometimes the amount of time is a lot more than what you want it to be, so you end up saying "ugh, a year later and I'm still not over this?" That's when it's probably important to accept and feel your feelings, but not act on them (and don't treat them like they mean the person you're not over yet is your destiny).
your timing is impeccable
Thoughts:
1. First, Orna and Couples Therapy are two of my true loves, thank you for acknowledging.
2. Being ghosted or having a situationship end are such universally horrible experiences that can trigger such deep questioning of self worth!! Anytime it’s happened to me, I run through every possible reason why I could have disgusted the other person. Does my southern accent make me seem like I’m dumb? Was my breath bad? Did I say something that icked them? Did my dream of quitting my corporate job and opening a small beach town donut shop not align with their vision of their own future? It’s so hard to turn the critical eye back onto the other person, but after dating for a long time, I realized I had to learn to intentionally think about the reality of dating or marrying this person and what would have never worked for me. One person seemed perfect after 3 dates, but after she ghosted me I remembered that she drank several drinks at each date and I don’t drink. Not a good match long term, maybe! Another person who ghosted me two months in on New Year’s Eve (15 minutes before midnight by leaving the bar we were at and never returning) completely broke my heart. But after grieving for a few days, deeply, I remembered she was deeply invested in men’s professional soccer and i wouldn’t have been happy pub hopping to watch a sport I could care less about for the whole season.
3. Petty life hack: find an ugly picture of them (check their friends’ IG accounts) and keep it close.
Thank you for this taxonomy of crushes I didn’t know I needed!!
Ugh i wish i did not relate so deeply to this question asker. you gotta let yourself feel hurt, down bad!! ghosting you in this manner is an unkind and hurtful thing for that hot doctor to do! just gotta remember that someone who does that is simply not wife material. time will heal your wounds and a new, hotter doctor could be just around the corner <3
Man it is so great to read about other lesbians a) being insane and knowing it, and b) giving great relationship advice. Thank u maddy and down bad!! I feel the warm glow of lesbian kinship radiating out of my phone
Orna!!!! 🥵🔥🤓
"what happened there?" 💦
“Where are you?” 🫠
i want to put this on a poster, print 1000 copies and put them up in places where lesbians hang out
In my experience, sometimes time by itself isn't enough to get over someone. Sometimes you have to decide that you truly WANT to move on from the person before time can, eventually, make that happen. And sometimes the amount of time is a lot more than what you want it to be, so you end up saying "ugh, a year later and I'm still not over this?" That's when it's probably important to accept and feel your feelings, but not act on them (and don't treat them like they mean the person you're not over yet is your destiny).
Orna!!! 😍😍😍