Oh lord I have feelings about this! Lol. As someone who was once in a similar triad situation (but on the married couple side) I can attest to how very tricky this setup can be!! Couple privilege is real, feelings between three people don’t all grow at the same rate, just trying to coordinate calendars alone is a NIGHTMARE. Lmao. A triad with an established couple really is a relationship on Hard Mode, harder even than other poly configurations imo. Not that it CAN’T work, it just takes A LOT of work. And on my side we got into it because it was fun and exciting at first and then WHEWWW did it all blow up. I may just be sensitive on this subject but if I was you, question asker, I would take the move and the engagement as an opportunity to break it off and start the healing process. It will hurt but chances are *high* that you will be happier in the long run.
Oh lord I have feelings about this! Lol. As someone who was once in a similar triad situation (but on the married couple side) I can attest to how very tricky this setup can be!! Couple privilege is real, feelings between three people don’t all grow at the same rate, just trying to coordinate calendars alone is a NIGHTMARE. Lmao. A triad with an established couple really is a relationship on Hard Mode, harder even than other poly configurations imo. Not that it CAN’T work, it just takes A LOT of work. And on my side we got into it because it was fun and exciting at first and then WHEWWW did it all blow up. I may just be sensitive on this subject but if I was you, question asker, I would take the move and the engagement as an opportunity to break it off and start the healing process. It will hurt but chances are *high* that you will be happier in the long run.